It’s Not Your Fault: Why Childhood Trauma Shapes You and How to Break Free (Paperback)

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It’s Not Your Fault: Why Childhood Trauma Shapes You and How to Break Free (Paperback)


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This powerful self-help book will change the way you see your past and transform the way you live now.

Do you struggle to find happiness in yourself or in your relationships? Do you have issues with your physical or mental health such as fatigue, anxiety, sleep problems, addictions or depression? Do you feel emotionally numb, or are you unable to truly feel your emotions? You are not alone. And maybe you need to stop blaming yourself.

We are all affected by our early experiences – both good and bad. But for many of us, the patterns of our younger years have damaged us as adults, leaving us unable to truly feel or form lasting positive relationships with ourselves and others.

As children, we're dependent on those around us to meet our emotional needs for us – the need for boundaries, safety and love. When these key needs go unanswered, the template for good mental health in adulthood is not properly formed. As adults, we can learn to meet these needs for ourselves, and to break free from a life of unnecessary suffering. Doing so doesn't just heal the impact of our past, it also helps us unlock our true potential in life.

Childhood trauma will continue to trap us throughout our lives if we don't seek to confront it. Drawing on his own healing from childhood trauma and his clinical work with thousands of patients, Alex Howard sets a clear path to understanding your own unique blueprint from childhood and then provides a clinically proven reset plan for healing.

It's Not Your Fault will help you to understand your trauma and heal its impact, build better boundaries and connect to your emotions to create healthy and fulfilling relationships.
Alex Howard is a therapist, and the founder of The Optimum Health Clinic (OHC), one of the world's leading integrative medicine clinics.
Product Details ISBN: 9781401975159
ISBN-10: 1401975151
Publisher: Hay House UK
Publication Date: September 12th, 2023
Pages: 272
Language: English
The beauty and value of Alex Howard’s book is that he speaks from his personal story. He had support to transform and transmute his own trauma, which led him in the direction of developing the clinical expertise to help thousands of people and to writing this book to reach even more. His joy in life and depth of knowledge make him a trustworthy guide to your own liberation from the past.
- Gail Larsen, teacher and author Transformational Speaking: If You Want to Change the World, Tell a Better Story

Alex Howard has done it again! It’s Not Your Fault is a book that will benefit everyone, though the reader will feel it was written specifically for them. Alex addresses a complex topic with empathy and understanding while providing tools to navigate the impacts of past traumatic experiences.
- Andrea Nakayama, Functional Medicine Nutritionist, Educator and Speaker

It’s Not Your Fault is a candid and refreshingly honest journey into the wounds and emotions we do everything to NOT feel and the powerful path through to the freedom we each desire for our future. It’s Not Your Fault is an essential, practical, and living read for anyone with a human body, emotions, chronic illness, or in the chaos of escaping emotions. Alex Howard squarely places himself among the giants with It’s Not Your Fault, where he brings Mind-Body Medicine from an idea to life with heart, stories, and vulnerability. Readers will feel the book almost describing their own inner life and be provided with one of the best modern composed prescriptions combining different modalities that actually works. I recommend this book to all those seeking healing!
- Dr. Aimie Apigian, Founder and CEO of Trauma Accelerated Healing

Heartfelt, powerful, and brilliant – this could be the best book on trauma I’ve ever read. It combines good science on the neuropsychology of trauma, personal stories, and tons of useful methods. Alex Howard provides a new comprehensive framework to move this field forward. Clearly and beautifully written, it carries the reader along quickly, with useful insights, warm encouragement, and practical tools on every page. A gem.
- Dr. Rick Hanson, New York Times best-selling author of Hardwiring Happiness and Resilient

It's Not Your Fault is a powerful book with an important message – our trauma is not our fault, but it is possible for us to heal. Through his two decades of clinical experience, Alex has developed powerful and easily accessible frameworks that will help you not just understand how you have been shaped by childhood trauma, but most importantly how you can heal from it.
- Peter A. Levine PhD, author of Healing Trauma

Therapist Alex Howard has written a beautiful, informative and kind book on recovering from trauma. He writes in easy-to-understand, empathic language so that you are drawn into this vital subject. Alex’s message is that your pain and trauma are gateways to healing. It’s Not Your Fault teaches you to reset your nervous system, develop emotional resilience and practise loving self-care as past trauma heals and you emerge into a happier and more satisfying life.
- Judith Orloff MD, author of The Genius of Empathy