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ISBN-13: 9780374277628
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Published: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 3/2011
First of all, let me just say that the cover art on this book is gorgeous.
As for the book itself, a wide range of adjectives come to mind describing my reactions and impressions of this memoir: brave, compelling, twisting, repelling, erotically charged, repulsive, manipulative, raw, confusing (pushing & pulling emotions), difficult, powerful ...
The author really describes perfectly what it might be like as a child growing in an abusive relationship with a father-like, caring, trusting, affirming, sexually abusive person. The confusing reality of this kind of long-term thing where the victim feels protective, protected, cared for, and devoted to their abuser, is really clear. I felt sympathetic towards the abuser at times, repulsed at times; sympathetic towards the victim at times, sometimes angry and repulsed by her behavior; and it all brings up questions in one's self as to why these emotions are experienced when reading about something that is supposed to be responded to with ONLY disgust and condemnation toward the abuser. It think the real genius of this work is how the author pulls the reader into her world & her wavering, back-&-forth emotions throughout the 14 years that she was involved with her abuser.
It's like finally being able to say, "Ah. I see." when you've only been able to say, "How could this have happened, how could this be?"